Setting Healthy Boundaries in 4 Easy Steps

Heart Rhythm Meditation

Dear life long learning friends;

Last Friday, I spent the day in a workshop learning something new. Continuing education is wonderful as it gives us tools and techniques for improving our lives. Each new fact or practice we learn builds and expands on our foundation of knowledge and wisdom.

This particular workshop was on recognizing the dimensions of the heart and presented by Puran and Susanna Bair from Institute for Applied Meditation. I went with an expectation for developing deeper meditation and came away with a much greater appreciation for how our physical heart works.

To get to the emotional heart, we must go through the physical heart which is the internal clock. There is a fundamental rhythm that gives each cell the same beat. That beat emits a color and light that can be measured at a distance. That is why we can “feel” that someone is upset or depressed.

The heart has four dimensions:

1. Collaboration-Harmony. The ability to extend your arms and embrace others. “Big hearted”
2. Courage-Creativity. The forces of your heart to give, radiate, lead and create. “Brave hearted”
3. Compassion-Idealization. The ability to empathize with others and be deeply moved. “Kind hearted.”
4. Capacity for Constructive Change. The final dimension is inward and shows all that your heart contains and has the potential for growth. “A heart felt person.”

There is much more information available and the Bairs are on a world book tour right now. If you have the opportunity to hear them speak or buy their books Living From the Heart and Energize Your Heart please do so.

From my open heart to yours.

Judy H. Wright

Judy H. Wright Radio Interview

Last week I was interviewed by Lisa A. Fredette from Passionate About Life Coaching. I spoke about how to build your self-confidence and find the courage to take risks. Discover methods of increasing your self-esteem and reaching your goals.

To listen to this interview press the play button below.

Teaching Children to Speak to Strangers

Hello from Auntie Artichoke and beautiful Montana:

Thanks so much for commenting and asking about this tricky subject. We want our children to be open, affirming and respectful to all, but also don't want them to be hurt.

In a recent parenting class (where I learn all my best ideas) one of the participants voiced concern over allowing her child to help an elderly neighbor. As we brainstormed over ideas, it was clear that to deny them the chance to give service was to send a message we did not want to send. Also, this might be an opportunity for a multi-generational relationship that would be beneficial to all parties.

However, we want to strenthen the child's communication skills and teach her/him to present an assertive, confident stance that implies that they are not victims. Our goal is to help them be aware but not afraid. In the instance above, the child saw the elderly neighbor struggling with groceries, but was afraid to offer to carry the sack because Mom had said that a stranger was someone whose name you did not know.

In researching for Caution Without Fear-safeguarding children from sexual abuse, it became clear that sometimes parents (including me) had talked so much about stranger danger, that when the child was abused by a close friend, they didn't tell.

Like many of life's little quandaries, there are no easy answers. But I would love to start a dialog.

Please join in and share your two cents worth!

Should You Talk to Strangers?

What you think about, you bring about. If you think most people are mean, selfish, and out to get you, then that is the kind of people you will be looking for and find. However, if you think most people are kind, helpful and want the same things from life that you want, that is the type of people you will run into and meet daily. There are bad people, but they are a small minority, and the chance of connecting with them is rare. There are so many more good people in the world who mean us no harm and may be in a position to help us or someone we love.

We are all more alike than different. Everyone, no matter what the circumstances of life, wants joy, security, food, warmth, shelter and hope for the future. When we speak to others and acknowledge their existence, we give a gift of validation. We are saying in both verbal and non-verbal ways; "I see you and recognize a fellow traveler on this journey."

Think hard, have you ever had someone get mad at you for saying hello or smiling? Of course not and yet many people are so fear based that they anticipate rejection. They assume that others will not welcome a kind word or greeting. Think hard again, have you ever gotten angry at someone smiling or making conversation when your paths crossed? Hasn’t a random compliment or friendly greeting boosted your mood or made your day happier?

Just making eye contact, smiling or making a comment on the weather is all we need to do to open a conversation. A casual dialog doesn’t necessarily lead to friendship or networking, but it might.

In my own experience, it has amazed me how narrow that six degrees of separation really is. By remarking on the paint splattered pants of the fellow in line at the post office, I learned the name of a wonderful contractor. Asking exiting restaurant patrons what they had ordered and how they liked it has helped save us from dry tuna and into delicious chicken Alfredo.

Not only is it okay to engage in conversations with strangers, it is the only way we enlarge the edges of our community. We all need to step out of our safe comfort zone of fear or reluctance and into the realm of "No more strangers, only friends waiting to meet us."

The world is abundant with good people and you are one of them. So smile and make small talk with someone new today. You will both be glad you did.

Secrets to Success Teleseminar

Hello from beautiful Missoula:

I just got a message from my good friend Kathleen Gage about a very special offer and program she is involved with. Knowing Kathleen as well as I do, this is something you won’t want to miss.

She is hosting a teleseminar with a very successful business owner who has combined a pragmatic and spiritual approach to building a multi-million dollar business from the ground up.

As a matter of fact, the gentleman she will be interviewing is in the top 3% of revenue generators in an extremely competitive industry, has been happily married for over 34 years, is in top physical shape in his late fifties and enjoys a life of balance, spirituality and massive contribution to others.

Who is this person? His name is Dr. Joe Capista author of, “What Can a Dentist Teach you About Business, Life and Success? Discover Secrets to Achieving Total Success!”

Dr. Joe began incorporating Law of Attraction principles to his life over 30 years ago. He was fortunate enough to have an amazing mentor who patiently taught him some of the most profound insights to a life of abundance. His mentor is now close to 90 years old.

Although Dr. Joe is an extremely successful dentist, he and Kathleen won’t be talking about dentistry. Dr. Joe will be sharing insights that virtually anyone can apply to dramatically improve their financial well-being, health, happiness and overall joy in life.

However, you can only get a spot in the teleseminar for a limited time and when you get his newly released book, “What Can a Dentist Teach You about Business, Life and Success? Discover Secrets to Total Success!”

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You will find Dr. Joe's book to be one of the best on business, success and spirituality that has come along in some time. To get your very own copy of Dr. Joe’s book, an invitation into his teleseminar and bonus gifts valued at over $2,551from experts around the globe simply go to http://www.joecapista.com/amazon.htm to read all about this special offer. This offer is good for a very limited time.

In abundance and joy,

Judy

A Tip About Learning Styles

Obtain a book from the library on learning styles. Perhaps your child has to have a detailed job description or must be shown repeatedly how to do a task. Some children not only need to know what the job is, but why it is important in the scheme of things and how it affects them personally. This information is helpful for them in school situations also. Work closely with their teachers so that they will approach teaching your child in a manner that will maximize the learning experience.

In general, 80% of us are visual and learn by seeing and observing. 10% are auditory and learn by people telling us what needs to be done and how to do it and another 10% are tactile, which means we learn best with hands-on teaching. The problem in families comes when a parent who is auditory tries to tell his visual son what has to be done. Unless the son can form a picture in his mind, he simply doesn't get it and they both end up frustrated.