Question for Auntie Artichoke

“We work hard to keep our yard clean and attractive. It makes me crazy to see kids walking home from Middle School and dropping papers and wrappers on the sidewalk. Should I speak up?”
-Retired Banker

Auntie Artichoke says:
Yes, please speak up and say Hello and in a calm and confident voice, remind them that trash goes in garbage cans. Ask them about their studies, basketball or what they had for lunch. How about taking some of your free time and volunteering at the school for an hour or two? Once the kids know you are a resource and mentor for them, they will want to please you and learn from your example and teachings.

I really recommend Denzel Washington’s book A Hand to Guide Me. In fact, we are giving a copy to our adult children to help them recognize that every one, no matter how busy they are, has the potential to make a positive impression on a child. The kids in that age group especially are hungry for mentors who will encourage and motivate without criticism.

Being firm and kind about the misbehavior but nonjudgmental about the person will go a long ways to get cooperation. It takes just about the same time as planting a beautiful annual, but the good will and esteem in the child will linger perennially.

Thanks for sharing. Comments, suggestions, and ideas. Let us hear from you!